The mechanics of passive aggressive behavior

This is a complex perspective and a long text with some typos so grab some patience if the following sounds interesting enough for you. Otherwise you are feeeeee to scroll away. I’m happy either way.

Being empath makes one’s life experience so astonishing so exciting and sometimes can shatter a projected reality 😃
But today I want to bring into your awareness the idea of “mask” and how to read, detect and understand the behaviour of passive aggressive interactions and how to pierce the character’s projected mask in a compassionate, loving and non judgemental way.

Do you understand the subtleties of a passive aggressive behavior?

In various situations, individuals tend to project their version of you in their reality and place you, the fake, virtual you, their projection of you, somewhere beneath their level of knowledge, beneath their level of existence, beneath their current state or whatever level they imagine you exceed them, with the intention of healing a wound they feel. Basically they feel threatened, attacked at some level.

Unfortunately they don’t accept the idea that this passive aggressive behavior is nothing else but a reflection of their fear of not being good enough by simply measuring themselves with a virtual projection of you… so, what they do is simple, because they believe deep inside they are not at the level they see you, they automatically create a place above you in which they place themselves…

In other words, within communication type of interactions they will use words or expressions to belittle you as much as possible under the mask of their wisdom or something similar… like this:

• you almost got it right… is passive agressive to the equivalent of “you need to learn, I’m already above that knowledge” .
  Wound of self-trust in their own capabilities of understanding.

• oh my dear one, there’s much more… is passive aggressive to the equivalent of “I know more than you think you do…”.
  Wound or trauma of self-depreciation, lack of self value, worthiness. They often need to be acknowledged, seen, appreciated for their efforts, validated…

• your young… is passive aggressive to the equivalent of “Don’t flash your knowledge in front of me, you’re too inexperienced to have it right.. you need to be old, and go through pain and sorrow and trauma because that’s the way I learned and that pain is a badge of honor and people should notice it not your flashing pieces of wisdom” – The wound of disapointment, feeling unfulfilled, they feel that their age is greater than the accumulated experience…

The list is way longer but I’m not paid as a psychiatrist and behavioral analyst.
Within the same environment you will see that they offer an (so called) “the escape route” for you and place themselves as your savior… You need them, their knowledge, their wisdom, their experience because, that’s right…. they know better than you.

Usually these individuals wearing their own fear as mask strongly believe they can be protected by the veil of mystery the energy of wisdom surrounding and empowering their online image, their behavior.

The mechanism behind is simple to understand because they adopt the “already enlightened” archetype by using short sentences generating the idea that they did an effort to interact with you an effort for which you should applaud or something…
How to offer compassion to this type of behavior?
It is very simple, allow them the space and hold that space in which they feel safe and not threatened.
Usually when in conversation, interaction, don’t reply with a 180deg perspective to their comment because they will see no other option but to reinforce their projection of you much more aggressive and they will try to either crash you with a single comment in order to establish again their dominative position or bottle up that negative energy which makes things worsts. The wound doesn’t heal but reopens a bit.

By offering the space and holding that space with care and compassion, you show them that the image they projected of you within their reality is just that, a projection which can not harm them in any way, shape or form…
Don’t worry about the feeling of inferiority generated by the idea of you holding the safe space, it is just your own projection (it will be transformed into compasion) and you can always control your own emotions which by the way, manifest within you and not outside of you so don’t condition yourself in a negative way.

If you have questions, suggestions or a response like: “you know nothing John Snow” feel free to comment below…. this is a safe place, I don’t judge, I observe. “Two eyes to look and one Eye to see”